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Charity Begins at Home

April 21, 2017 5 Comments

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With only two episodes left in this season, Greenleaf continues to shed light on the issues of the Black church. I truly believe that all that is wrong with the world can be cured with just a little mommy and me time. Lady Mae is mother to four children; Faith (deceased),Grace, Jacob and the baby of the family – Charity. Each of the children are living through their own personal versions of hell.

Grace has just regained custody of her daughter Sophia and is suffering through a crisis of belief. She is still struggling to make sense of the suicide of her sister Faith and the release of her child molester uncle from jail. Add to that the pressures of dating as a minister and single mom. Gigi doesn’t seem to have many friends that she can confide in. Her once close relationship with her father is now strained. Her sister and brother both seem to merely tolerate her presence. And her mother never seems to have a kind word.

Jacob has been relieved of his duties as minister at Calvary. He blames this on the return of Gigi ( it couldn’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that he was carrying on a relationship with his father’s secretary). He has been lured by the fool’s gold that is Triumph – which also happens to be his father’s rival church. Little does he know that he is being used as a pawn in Skanks game of chess to destroy the family.

Charity has just given birth to her first child after the revelation that her husband has been having gay urges. The only friend she seemed to have is Carlton, the church music minister. But, Lady Mae has recently relieved him of his duties and their relationship is now strained as a result of this. She has been suffering in silence and then a beacon of hope appears in the form of Jabarri, the producer of her upcoming album. Music is Charity’s first love and she has longed to produce her own music for a while. Having been stifled under the ruling thumb of her mother she hasn’t had the opportunity to fully explore this avenue.

With each of her children in their own private hell, which of Lady Mae's children needs her attention most? Click To Tweet

As mothers, it is hard to watch our children suffer. Whether the suffering is of their own doing or not. It is our sincere desire to see our children healthy, happy and whole. Which of Lady Mae’s children needs her attention the most? Charity.

There was one line that has haunted me over the last two weeks. It happened during a conversation with Kevin’s mother as they discussed the baby crying. Charity said rather matter of factly, Somehow I feel like I cried a lot on my own as a child. - Charity Greenleaf-Satterlee Click To Tweet. What mother wants to think of her child crying without any consolation? Children who aren’t consoled grow up to be adults who learn to keep their feelings inside because no one cares. Charity is still that little girl crying alone.  The men in Charity’s life are evidence that she is crying for help.

Charity &  Jabarri

Jabarri is a cutie, I must admit. He is metrosexual just the type of man that I am attracted to- you know the ones that are meticulous about their appearance. I bet he smells like Issey Miyake. Sitting next to him at the piano shoulder to shoulder, Charity is reminded of the love and affection she has been missing at home. Now, I am not condoning the apparent flirting; but I am empathetic to the situation. Without intervention this could get ugly.


Charity & Carlton 

An openly gay music minister? This isn’t unheard of in the Black church. But, Carlton’s presence seems to have come at the perfect time. Charity had begun to sense that something was off in her relationship. This relationship took on a life of it’s own outside of the typical employee/employer role. The blossoming friendship took the place of what she was missing in her marriage.  The two were inseparable, they even decorated the nursery together!  But, the moment that Lady Mae suggested that he be fired after his same-sex marriage she folded. Even after promising that he was safe from that sort of discrimination at Calvary, Charity found it easier to let Carlton be a casualty of war. After all, she couldn’t possibly risk her album to save the one friend she has, right?


Charity & Kevin

Kevin has tried to be a loving husband. But, he is struggling with urges toward the same sex. As a believer, I can understand how this could be difficult for him. We all know what the word says about homosexuality. But, I find it hard to believe that these urges are new. Maybe he has just mustered up the strength to act upon them. He hasn’t fully acted upon them, but he has openly flirted with men. He has even gone on a date. He has a dating app on his phone and can be seen swiping right through the choices presented on the site. I wonder if Charity has ever had an inkling that Kevin could have been gay?

Lady Mae, Charity begins at home. Click To Tweet


Mae,  your baby girl needs your attention. She is falling apart before your eyes and all you can think about is the family’s reputation.  She finally opened up to you about what has really been going on in her marriage and you used that information as ammunition to protect the family dynasty. The results could be disastrous if you don’t wrap your arms around her and really listen to her. Love on her, show her that she matters.




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    April 26, 2017

    THis show is so good. I am finally all caught up. Oh the black church. I stay home and listen to sermons and read my Bible because I can not deal with the church drama.

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    April 27, 2017

    Sounds like this show is too much for me lol! I don’t have cable so I haven’t seen it yet, but it would be fun to catch an episode or two.

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    April 30, 2017

    I haven’t watched Greenleaf, but my mom-in-law and mom do and they love it. As soon as I read “Openly gay music minister” I thought to myself, we had one! He would dress to the NINES~

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    Walk One Day In Our Shoes

    May 8, 2017

    I don’t watch TV but I’ve heard so much about this show. Seems like juuuuust enough drama and crazy for me!

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    May 8, 2017

    This was a great synopsis of all that has been going on. I don’t think these situations are unique because I’m sure all families go through these things. But I think the fact that this is a church family is what makes it more intriguing because people often hold them to a higher standard.